Intercultural "marriage" and the pitfalls . . .

Sometimes, no matter how "white" he acts, Mike's Chinese heritage sneaks up and bites us on the ass. And nowhere is this more prevalent than when his parents are involved.

See, Mike's mom and dad are:

1) Busybodies who must continually bitch at him that he'd be SO much happier married to a (Chinese) woman. They constantly tell him that I'm using him, that I'll leave him as soon as I am through school, that "gay relationships don't ever last" (despite our counter that we know several couples together a decade or more, and we've already hit half that), etc. It makes my blood boil that they say these things about me when I can't defend myself, and they don't even know me. Hell, in my prescence they completely ignore me. And this after I VOLUNTEERED to take days off and drive them to the SF Airport when they go to and later return from China in September.

2) Cheap bastards who won't fix ANYTHING in our house because they consider it to be a good deal (It isn't much lower than other houses in the neighborhood) and expect us to repay that by doing it all, despite the fact we don't have any real incentive to fix someone else's house and haven't the money anyway.

They've started bitching at him that he needs to buy a new car (remember, they gave him the POS he's driving now) and complaining about his "supporting" me (he seems unable to convince them that he's NOT paying 90% of my expenses). His mother has now demanded he give her $400 a month for her to put away for him. He doesn't want to do this, but he doesn't see how he can not -- that whole Chinese "must do what parents want" nonsense.

The only way he can see getting out from under their shadows is to move away. I suggested we just move out of the house, but NOOooooo, he's so convinced it's a fantastic deal he won't move to a better place because it might cost more. I had to tell him last night we're not staying in that house once I have a teaching position, I don't care how much more rent we pay for a house in midtown.

I'm sick of it, to be honest. I wish he'd get a frelling backbone and stand up to his parents. They don't do this stuff out of love, they do it out of a desire to control. His dad treats him like shit in every other way. I want out of this house, and sometimes, when Mike gives me that goddamned "You don't understand", I just want out. I wanted to slap him last night. He's said MANY times (and I believe him) that he doesn't like his family, wants to avoid them, but he refuses to do what would make that happen.

Last night I caught myself wishing they'd meet with some accident while in China. How awful does that make me?

Gods, and I thought Irish/Portugese families were bad.

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The sad thing is, this is really how I see myself:






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Assorted minor stuff . . .

Charmed last night... I really didn't see that particular resolution coming. I mean, I knew Pheobe would come back to the Good, but the manner of it! Whew!

The last free-born Condor has been released back into the wild. It looks as if we've succeeded in saving the species, proving humans can be just as good for the world as they have been bad for it. It is our world, and we're learning what that means as regards our responsibility to it.

Joe Baltake gave Spiderman four stars. That brings us to four signs of the apocalypse. Someone call Sunnydale and get the Slayer up here.

I have been rediscovering my love of The Smiths and, more specifically, Morrissey.

I just (COMPLETELY ACCIDENTALLY) brushed a semi-cute coworker's ass with my hand. OOPS.

I swear, it was accidental. I was trying to evade him gracefully in tight circumstances and misjudged the swing of my arm.

Shut up, Matt.

Once a GM, always a GM.

I have two different campaigns I'd like to run above and beyond the current Star Wars game.

One is a 7th Sea story.

The other is not (Since it's somewhat original, I'd like to keep it secret for now).

Does anyone know a GOOD system which I could use to make this game? It needs to be able to handle Magick in a more free-form style than D20 does, but also handle modern tech up to the end of the 20th century.

OOH! Alternity! It's set to handle anything from the Stone Age to Modern to beyond! And I /think/ I can get the Special Effects rules to do magic -- that's what they're for, after all.

Coolness.

Tobey Maguire on that scene where Spiderman kisses Mary Jane while upside down...

Q: Screen kissing can be something of an art. But especially when one of you is hanging upside down.

A: It was interesting, it was challenging. I was hanging upside down, it was roughly five in the morning, there was rain pouring up my nose. I couldn't breathe, and I was gasping for breath out of the corner of Kirsten's mouth. Poor girl, I was giving her mouth-to-mouth rather than kissing her. But in the midst of that, I was sneaking some pleasure out of it.